It’s one of the many reasons why we’re as unalike as snowflakes in the wide expanse of humanity. Our DNA, brain chemistry, and the impacts of early childhood development, set us apart and launch us on a lifelong course of caring about others….. or not.
Brain chemistry enables the creation of emotional empathy, the ability to feel the pain in our own being when another person experiences harm. If you cringe as a person falls off a chair, you’re experiencing emotional empathy.
Emotional empathy’s impact on moral development
As I’ve discussed, elsewhere on this blog, without emotional empathy, one can’t develop a conscience. If we can’t feel a pang of pain ourselves, by what others experience, we don’t feel badly when we cause distress to another person. We’re only prevented from hurting them by the fear of exposure or consequences. We simply don’t relate to the agony we cause.
Empathy and SexFraud
People who fail to comprehend the harm in sexually penetrating a person without their “knowing consent” are devoid of emotional empathy. They lack the brain chemistry to connect deeply to another person. Instead of recognizing the emotional trauma they cause by duping someone into sex, they think of sexual relations as nothing more than getting a fix of excitement by exchanging warm flesh and body fluids. To them, sex is a commodity to be obtained however they choose. People are simply objects to service their desire.
Who conducts SexFraud?
When you see the opposition to legislation to prevent SexFraud, ask yourself what is motivating the objection. Is it because the person can’t grasp the emotional connectivity of sexual intercourse or why lying to induce sex is such a terrible defilement to a person. Are they demonstrating that they personally may have have no such bonding mechanism? Both the bonding connectivity of sex, and the formation of conscience are fueled by the same neurotransmitter, oxytocin.
If a person thinks it’s okay to lie to induce sex from someone, which violates the most intimate core of a person’s being, what will they do to get other things they want?
Character Disorder’s Impact on Romance
To a person who’s disordered, the empathetic person is a chump, stupid, a fool, gullible and vulnerable. When they victimize someone, it’s the other person’s fault. “They should have known better,” “It was their responsibility to not be fooled,” “Let the buyer beware,” are all common mantras of a character disordered mind.
Con artists are very good at what they do. Even being highly responsible and intelligent can’t protect a person from them. They master the combination of stirring up brain chemistry through affection and behaviors that build trust. They elevate the production of oxytocin in others, the very neurotransmitter they lack, in order to accomplish their goals. And they fail to see the harm they create because people without oxytocin simply lack the emotional empathy to feel their victim’s pain.