All posts by Joyce M. Short

Nobody in their right mind sets out to fall in love with a sexual predator. When I met a man who lied to me about his every conceivable identity characteristic in order to attract me, I was as capable and intelligent as most twenty-somethings get. It took years to unravel the mess he'd made of my life. And I wouldn't want that hardship visited on another human soul. I've learned a great deal about what motivates people to be kind or cruel. Through many years of struggle, I finally figured out what I needed to know in order to heal myself from the defiling effects of rape by fraud. I determined to pass that knowledge along for others who were victimized as I had been. I also discovered the weakness in present-day criminal code that enables sexual assault by fraud to continue unabated. I hope to make an impact on society's recognition, and to implement changes in rape laws in order to penalizes offenders, and deter them from carrying out their heinous behavior. I'm no one special.... just a reasonably intelligent person who cares. I grew up all along the East coast, from Massachusetts to Georgia, and settled in NYC more than forty years ago. I work as a real estate broker and I run a free tennis program for the children in my community. I've done so for over twenty-five years. It's truly a labor of love. While my ex undermined my ability to have a loving family, I've found love in the many friendships I enjoy and derive great satisfaction from my efforts to instill character in the children whose lives I've touched on the tennis court. I'm a dog lover and I’ve trained my pet Aussie, Argos, to play a match against the wall. I hit, he catches. He usually wins. Please pardon the pun…. He’s doggedly determined! But if we were in a group who were divvying up teams for a doubles match, you'd probably want me on your side. I'm strong, I'm resilient....I'm a survivor!

Put It to Music! F-G-K-&-I-A!

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Here are some lyrics in search of a melody!  Can you come up with one? Know someone who can? If so, post it on YouTube and send me the link! Free book for the best song! Continue reading Put It to Music! F-G-K-&-I-A!

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New Spelling for “CONSENT” will stand RAPE MENTALITY on it’s ear!

Consent = Freely Given Knowledgeable & Informed Agreement!
Consent = Freely Given Knowledgeable & Informed Agreement!

CONSENT could be the most misunderstood word in the English language! 

Millions of people are harmed by rape every year. And some offenders do not comprehend why or how their behavior constitutes RAPE.

Let’s get it right!

Continue reading New Spelling for “CONSENT” will stand RAPE MENTALITY on it’s ear!

What Important Book is NY’s Governor Cuomo Reading?

#GovernorCuomo and #JoyceShort

January 30th. What a day!

Zipping through the Taconic Parkway’s twists and turns, on a crisp, sunny, winter morning, was just the exhilarating start! The best was yet to come!

I was headed to Albany for double duty- to meet Assembly Member, Rebecca Seawright‘s new Legislative Director, Cheryl Couser, in order to Continue reading What Important Book is NY’s Governor Cuomo Reading?

Melania Trump- The look of an abused woman!

Anyone who lives with abuse can see them self in these two interactions.  When he turns toward her, she smiles. When he turns away, her heartache is visible all over her face.

Melania’s been cowed, shamed, and pastes on a smile whenever it’s required. But notice, even though she seemed totally crest-fallen at whatever maliciousness Trump expressed toward her, she repressed any change in her facial expression ’til her oppressor turned away. She’s well-schooled in tolerating his despicable behavior. And as you can see, he can hurl harm without changing his own facial character one single iota. It’s all a show, and he’s the master showman.

While maintaining an artificial smile might assuage his intemperance in the privacy of their home, it sure doesn’t work while the cameras of the entire world are trained on their personal yet public interaction. She likely received  a sharp rebuke from these public showings of her feelings about him.

He’ll relegate her back to her gilded cage in Trump Tower as soon, and as much as possible.

A picture speaks a thousand words!

Heaven help this poor woman!

Call for a Presidential Referendum!

Is he or is he not the President?
Is he or is he not the President?

Enough is enough! Love him or hate him, he says the vote was rigged.

This is far too partisan of an issue to be determined by people with vested interests in the outcome!

Holding a carefully monitored referendum vote is the only legitimate way to determine whether Donald J. Trump is or is not America’s President.

MAKE AMERICA UNITED AGAIN! 

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SIGN THE CHANGE.ORG PETITION CALLING FOR A REFERENDUM FOR THE PRESIDENCY OF THE US! 

#SunRecords and the Shameful Back-Story of Deceit

The Million Dollar Quartet, 12/4/56, Jerry Lee Lewis, Carl Perkins, Elvis Presley, and Johnny Cash
The Million Dollar Quartet, 12/4/56, Jerry Lee Lewis, Carl Perkins, Elvis Presley, and Johnny Cash

Get out your rock ‘n roll shoes! CMT’s February release of Sun Records, the story of the creation of rock n’ roll, promises to be a big hit for country music fans!  For me, however, it’s the story of heinous, callous and personally harmful deceit; a treachery that stole food right out of the mouths of both my child and me, and caused indescribable pain. Continue reading #SunRecords and the Shameful Back-Story of Deceit

Yes We Can! Yes We Did!

#KatarinaMatic #ChiefofStaff for #ASMREbeccaSeawright
Katarina Matic, Chief of Staff for NY State Assembly Member Rebecca Seawright, and me
As far as the eye could see! From 47th St to 125th St in Manhattan.
As far as the eye could see! From 47th St to 125th St in Manhattan.
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Fifth Avenue. That’s Tiffany’s on the left. Bet they didn’t get a lot of business today!

 

 

 

 

 

Even the police were smiling, as they used their bikes for crowd control.
Even the police were smiling, as they lined up their bikes for crowd control.

A Rapist Is Not My President!

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Every time a woman who was raped, and knows of Trump’s abuse of women, sees or hears Donald Trump, they cringe from the feeling that their defilement is of no importance to society. Their only saving grace is that the majority of Americans did not support that grossly indecent man.

How to get past the reminder?

“It’s not the majority” has become the mantra that enables me to get past those reminders that cut deeply into my psyche. And it makes me doubly determined to wake society up to the real meaning of rape!

Ivanna exemplifies misconceptions about rape

Ivanna Trump
Ivanna Trump

Certainly, his wife, Ivanna, didn’t know. She testified under oath that he raped her. But once she’d secured a $15MM settlement to shut her mouth, she claimed “Oh, but it wasn’t “criminal” rape.” She’s not an attorney. She’s not the police. She’s neither the judge nor the jury.  She’s the victim whose silence was bought off by a shameless, wealthy man.

Is there such a thing as non-criminal rape? 

Every form of rape is CRIMINAL! That includes spousal rape! Whenever consent is lacking in sex, it’s rape, plain and simple! And even the criminal code in NY State, where Ivanna was raped,  recognizes that spousal rape is rape, under the law!

If we have learned anything from Trump’s eery, and probably illegitimate, rise to authority, it’s that we must put an end to rape culture in society and expose what rape actually is….. NON-CONSENSUAL SEX! And it does not matter how non-consensual sex takes place….

Whether consent was undermined by:

  • Force
  • Drugs
  • Alcohol
  • Coercion
  • Deception
  • Mental Incapacity
  • Youth

RAPE IS RAPE! 

The Fight to Outlaw Rape & Sex Scam Crimes!
The Fight to Outlaw Rape & Sex Scam Crimes!

Please join The FORSSC today: The Fight to Outlaw Rape and Sex Scam Crimes! Help curb rape near you and around the world!

 

 

Were you hooked? Join The FORRSC! Today!

A new law can stop romance scams in their tracks! And you can be a vital part of that change!

Join The FORRSC! today! It’s free! And it’s working in states across the US to outlaw all rape and romance scam crimes! Members of The FORRSC! will play a crucial role in enacting laws against all forms of non-consensual sex in their state.

Note: None of the information on the following form will be publicly released.

 

 

The US is about to be ruled by Character Disorder! And here’s why…..

#Trump or #Hitler What's the difference?The United States is about to become ruled by a political party with a high concentration of people with little or no responsive emotional empathy! And what’s more, because they refuse to give up their intense desire to be the dominant decision makers, they refuse to acknowledge that the man at the helm is severely, and dangerously Character Disordered!

Continue reading The US is about to be ruled by Character Disorder! And here’s why…..

#NOW Is Outraged at the NYPD!” #TakeRapeSeriously!”

Join the NOW demonstration on January 10th!
Join the NOW demonstration on January 10th!

FOLLOW-UP

Video of today’s demonstration. Click Here!

INITIAL POST

I just received an important notice from the NYC chapter of NOW.

NYPD Captain, Peter Rose
NYPD Captain, Peter Rose

The cause of NOW’s outrage is the statements made by Commanding Officer, Captain Peter Rose when explaining why only 2 out of 13  recent rape cases were solved. He said: “Some of them were Tinder, some of them were hook-up sites, some of them were actually co-workers. It’s not a trend that we’re too worried about because out of 13, only two were true stranger rapes” Continue reading #NOW Is Outraged at the NYPD!” #TakeRapeSeriously!”

Oregon- Will Rape by Fraud be Prosecuted there?

Mt Hood overlooking Portland Oregon
Mt Hood overlooking Portland Oregon

Oregon is noted for its vastly diverse and stunning landscapes. And if anyone has a case of rape by fraud, it might also become known as the state that upheld honesty in sexual relations!  Continue reading Oregon- Will Rape by Fraud be Prosecuted there?

Is Donald Trump a “Sexual Psychopath?” The Law in DC

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Arianne Zucker, Actress ogled by Trump, surrounded by Trump and Billy Bush who lost his job over the ogling incident. While the offensive words didn’t come out of Bush’s mouth, it cost him his job. But it cost Trump nothing. What’s wrong with this picture!!

Be Careful Mr. President-Elect! Washington DC has an interesting law that could be your undoing!

DC Code § 22–3803. Definitions.

Continue reading Is Donald Trump a “Sexual Psychopath?” The Law in DC

Trump Is a Wake-Up Call About Sociopaths

Not My President!
Not My President!

People can look at each individual area of Trump’s impact; on the economy, freedom of religion, immigration, racism, women’s rights, foreign policy, global warming, etc. but that will simply create brush fires scattered across the nation. And it will not give our country the unity that we need in order to overcome the tragic knock in the head that should wake us all up!  It will simply divide us into small camps to address Continue reading Trump Is a Wake-Up Call About Sociopaths

#Passengers Linked to Rape By Fraud!

ChrisJaramillo ties #Passengers with #rapeByFruad

Sometimes , when I’m banging away at my keyboard, I wonder if anyone will actually pay attention to what I’m saying. But little, by little, I’m happy to hear when I’ve gotten the point across!

Just got this yesterday from Chris Jaramillo, a movie critic, who wrote a review for the movie Passengers for After Lobby, and likened the plot to a case of rape by fraud.

hey thanks, I reviewed your posts for States that have these laws on the books, super helpful for the review! 6:50 PM – 22 Dec 2016

Coming Soon!
Coming Soon!

 

Catcalls Banned in Argentina!

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The femicide crisis in South America is staggering……..

According to the BBC- a woman dies from femicide every other day in Columbia, every day in Argentina, 5 per day in Mexico and 15 per day in Brazil.

The culture of femicide is so ingrained in the lifestyle that on Wednesday, the City Council in Buenos Aires, Argentina, passed an Continue reading Catcalls Banned in Argentina!

#ISIS resulted from our #Electoral System!

 

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President George Bush- How didn’t we know he wasn’t Presidential material?

Al Gore conceded the election of 2000 in order to keep our nation from being torn apart. What he didn’t know is that the decisions made by his opposition, George Bush, would plunge our country into a chaotic war and ignite the furor that currently exists in the middle east.

An antiquated institution!

Our electoral system was created to make it possible for remote states to participate in US elections. We didn’t have the communications systems that make voting and voting counts instantly accessible. The electoral system prevented rural, less populated states from being dominated by states with higher concentrations of residents and specific, state-related interests. In a land where communication was difficult and each state’s revenue reflected  their specific economic focus such as farming, mining, industry or commerce, the electoral system created greater parity. That need no longer exists. Each state has diversity in its revenue base. Today the electoral system is a liability that undermines democracy.

Have we learned nothing from the horror of putting the country’s will aside by an antiquated, out of date process?  Our electors must stand up for what is in the best interest of our country and uphold the vote by the majority of Americans. Donald Trump is a threat to our nation’s stability. We’ve seen the downside of thwarting the will of the people. We need to heed the lesson of the Gore/Bush election and not undermine the popular vote!

Wasn’t one ill-fated war enough to wake us up?

Donald Trump’s thoughts and rhetoric toward Muslims is similar to Adolph Hitler’s concepts about the Jews. He is a character disordered despot in-the-making with an outrageous sense of grandiosity and not a shred of the humility that would make him accountable for his choices and policies. If you know an elector, beg and plead with him/her to stand up for the people’s choice! And please be sure to sign the petition to appeal to electors around the country.  Here’s the link.

Presently, Matthew Rozsa of Salon reports that 20 Republicans seem to be contemplating switching away from Trump. 37 are needed.

Here’s what happens if the electors don’t vote the party line:

The Electors shall meet in their respective States, and vote by Ballot for two Persons, of whom one at least shall not be an Inhabitant of the same State with themselves. And they shall make a List of all the Persons voted for, and of the Number of Votes for each; which List they shall sign and certify, and transmit sealed to the Seat of the Government of the United States, directed to the President of the Senate. The President of the Senate shall, in the Presence of the Senate and House of Representatives, open all the Certificates, and the Votes shall then be counted. The Person having the greatest Number of Votes shall be the President, if such Number be a Majority of the whole Number of Electors appointed; and if there be more than one who have such Majority, and have an equal Number of Votes, then the House of Representatives shall immediately chuse by Ballot one of them for President; and if no Person have a Majority, then from the five highest on the List the said House shall in like Manner chuse the President. But in chusing the President, the Votes shall be taken by States, the Representation from each State having one Vote; A quorum for this Purpose shall consist of a Member or Members from two thirds of the States, and a Majority of all the States shall be necessary to a Choice. In every Case, after the Choice of the President, the Person having the greatest Number of Votes of the Electors shall be the Vice President. But if there should remain two or more who have equal Votes, the Senate shall chuse from them by Ballot the Vice President

 

 

Dumb and Dumber in Suits! Two NJ Prosecutors!

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On November 14th, I stood on the steps of the NJ statehouse talking with the head prosecutors from two NJ counties, Sussex and Burlington. I was astonished by their ignorance of their own laws.

Rich Pompellio, the chief catalyst for the Victims’ Rights Amendment of the NJ Constitution was being honored on the Continue reading Dumb and Dumber in Suits! Two NJ Prosecutors!

The Trump Divorce Fiasco- What we need to learn about Rape

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This story has been reported in Lost Tycoon, the Many Lives of Donald J. Trump by Harry Hunt III, The Daily Beast and by the Associated Presslost-tycoon

Here’s what’s been said…

Ivana Trump clearly described a rape incident in her divorce deposition, during which, she was sworn to tell the truth. Here’s what she claimed………

Donald Trump had undergone painful scalp reduction surgery (to close a bald spot.) And Ivana’s plastic surgeon had performed the operation. Trump was in a great deal of pain. She reported that he screamed, “Your fucking doctor has ruined me!” Then he held back her arms as he ripped fistfuls of hair from her head, tore off her clothes, unzipped his pants and jammed his penis inside her for the first time in 16 months.

Following the incident, she ran upstairs, hid behind a locked door and cried all night.

The next morning, she returned to the master bedroom and saw the ripped-out hair lying on the bed. “Does it hurt?” Trump asked, mockingly.

Not only does Trump deny the allegation, he also denies he had scalp reduction surgery.

Trump’s attorney, Michael Cohen tried to damage-control the incident by saying- “She felt raped emotionally,” ….. as if someone who was raped would feel differently? Where are his brains? Of course she felt raped. That’s how people feel when they’re raped!

Michael Cohen, Attorney for The Trump Organization
Michael Cohen, Attorney for The Trump Organization

Cohen said there is no such thing as a man raping his wife, even though the marital rape exception was struck down in NY in 1984, long before the incident took place in the late 80s. The federal government followed suit in 1993. Never-the less- Cohen ridiculously summarized, in 2016, “By definition, you can’t rape your spouse.”

When the distribution of assets is at stake, and no matter what, you’re freeing yourself from a man who heinously defiled you, there’s simply no sense in being anything but magnanimous about it. Sending him to jail would harm you financially as well as harming your kids. You’d be shooting yourself in the foot.  And we’ve all seen how ruthlessly Donald Trump tears his opposition apart. Why would someone who was escaping his cruelty, with a $15MM divorce settlement along with other perks, and whose children are his heirs, want to add to the hostility; putting yours and your children’s finances in jeopardy?

Here’s what Ivana said once the ink was dry on their divorce decree… “As a woman, I felt violated, as the love and tenderness, which he normally exhibited towards me, was absent. I referred to this as a ‘rape,’ but I do not want my words to be interpreted in a literal or criminal sense.”

It’s apparent that Ivana Trump did not want herself or her children to have to travel through the minefield of a rape trial. She failed to pursue criminal charges against Trump, but his behavior, which she described in great detail, under oath, was a violent act of rape. There simply is no such thing as “not being raped in a criminal way,” as she claimed.
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Donald Trump could put society’s concerns about his character to rest by submitting to a lie detector test on this issue and by publicly waiving any restrictions preventing the surgeon from releasing information about procedures that he performed. Ivanna could also help society by taking a lie detector test.

Betcha neither of them will do so.