To All the Single Moms Who Are Also Dads- #HappyFathersDay!

The structure, the nurture, the pain and the joys,

Supporting the growth for our girls and our boys.

Relentless the effort keeping danger at bay,

Sleepless nights, cherished days, they’ve all landed our way.

 

We struggle, we achieve, and yes, sometimes we fail,

In the eyes of our children, who expect a smooth sail.

But we pray that they’ll notice, we have given them our all,

Building character, instilling love….. enabling them to stand tall.

On this day of thanking fathers, congratulations for all you do!

The mothers who are fathers deserve heartfelt recognition too! 

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Kentucky: The Grass Is Not All That’s Blue!

Kentucky Derby

I received the following message from a very intelligent Blue Grass State resident (with a PhD.) We’ll call her Pamela.  She discovered she was hitched to a narcissist after a 40 year marriage that produced four children.

People often ask me how long a narcissist can keep up their charade. Continue reading Kentucky: The Grass Is Not All That’s Blue!

Drop the shame- Provide the tools! Why Sex Education’s Latest Trend Will Fail!

Shaming rarely dents behavior. It simply makes people feel lousy about what they’ve done. Yet a new stylized term for shaming, “sexual risk avoidance,” seems to be gaining prominence when it comes to sex education in the nation’s schools.

In Abstinence Only Rebranded, Amanda Marcotte of Salon makes a cogent argument against this failed Bush-era sex-education Continue reading Drop the shame- Provide the tools! Why Sex Education’s Latest Trend Will Fail!

Good News/Bad News: New Rape Bill in MA

Massachusetts Representative, Kate Hogan

Middlesex Rep. Kate Hogan submitted a new sexual assault by fraud bill to the MA House of Representative in January. The House floor debate takes place this Fall. Continue reading Good News/Bad News: New Rape Bill in MA

Convicted! Mario Antoine- Sex Scammer!

Mario Antoine- locked up for 10 years!

On Friday, 5/12/17, in Kansas City MO, Mario  Antoine, sex scammer, pleaded guilty. Both his and the federal attorney agreed to a sentence of 10 years, as he pleaded guilty to wire fraud and avoided up to 60 years confinement on all charges.

Antoine induced women into sex by claiming to audition them as porn stars. Although he’d admitted to victimizing 10 or more Continue reading Convicted! Mario Antoine- Sex Scammer!

Not Just Another Sexual Assault Statistic!

This heartfelt letter was sent to me from a woman who’d like to remain anonymous. She correctly refers to herself as “Not Just Another Statistic!” 

“I was triggered reading an article and I’m pretty numb.

I don’t know…. all this time I wanted to make myself feel in the wrong, nasty, disgusting because of what happened. And then I Continue reading Not Just Another Sexual Assault Statistic!

#Stealthing Lacks Consent!

Recent news coverage casts a huge light on “Stealthing;” stripping off the condom during intercourse, without the partner’s consent.

From the Huffington Post to Fox News and beyond, articles are popping up across the media landscape, and all exemplify why broadcasting the actual meaning of  “consent” is so vital!  Continue reading #Stealthing Lacks Consent!

New Light Shines on Cause of BPD!

At last, a study identifying the genetics of Borderline Personality Disorder!

Borderline Personality Disorder is now estimated to be  more  prevalent in society than Bipolar Disorder or Schizophrenia. It’s attributed to 2% of the population.

Society needs to understand the prevalence of this and other character disorders, and that the root cause is genetics. We can’t fix them, but there are treatments for BPD that will enable them to “fix” themselves.

Until the science of nuero-psychology began, such as back in Freud’s time, the only plausible explanation was the impact of the parent on the child. Today, we’re beginning to know better. And thank God! Parents who lovingly nurtured their horribly disturbed children were often fingered as the cause. They lived under a cloud of shame.

Children with Borderline Personality Disorder are extremely difficult to raise. They’re identified as “conduct disordered” while under 18. Mental Health professionals fail to address their issues in a meaningful way that helps the parent cope and addresses the growing manipulative character of the child. They incite, enrage, distort, bully and blame. It feels like the child you adore, who you’d lay down your life for, sees you as the enemy because you’re responsible for curbing their outrageous behavior and attempting to encourage them to become caring and concerned beings. There is no escape from the child who behaves like an enemy in your midst.

Hopefully, there will be more recognition of the anguish the parent experiences in raising a BPD child, and that someone will develop treatment protocols to mend the family.

 

 

 

A Dozen Tips for Court Prep Against a Narcissist

In courtrooms- narcissists blur the lines between cause and effect!

In any court of law, proof, not truth, is the deciding factor. But when dealing with narcissists and other character disordered offenders, both truth and proof fly out the window.

As we live our lives, we rarely journal each and every daily event. Without concrete evidence of who threw the first punch. – “Was the person the aggressor or simply defending against one?” –  it’s hard to prove. And in matters of emotional abuse, where no bruises or scars can help tell the story, the complexity of the problem is intensified. Continue reading A Dozen Tips for Court Prep Against a Narcissist

The Wealth Manager Romance Scam- Lessons Learned

We think of Wealth Managers as highly educated, intelligent people. But that preconceived image helps unethical con artists carry out apalling harm!

The “Wealth Manager Scam” is one of the most potent of all extortions taking place through on-line dating! Offenders stir the romantic brain chemistry of their victims with flowers, affection, and talk of love, while plying them for details about their investments. Continue reading The Wealth Manager Romance Scam- Lessons Learned

Support CA Rape Survivors Bill Today!

Update-

Congratulations to the residents and legislators of California! This bill was approved yesterday. BTW- Yesterday, when I spoke to someone in the office of Asm. Reggie Jones-Sawyer, she told me the phones have been ringing off the hook! Good work everyone!

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Tomorrow, March 29th, the California Legislature will vote on the “Rape Survivor’s Civil Rights Bill,” AB1312, introduced by Assembly Members Gonzalez, Fletcher and Berman.

Continue reading Support CA Rape Survivors Bill Today!

Bullying Tactics- How Trump Operates!

In the classic move of a Narcissist, Trump stomps his feet and threatens to take his ball home. If he can’t be the pitcher, no one will play! What’s best for the team has nothing to do with his self-centered demand. Continue reading Bullying Tactics- How Trump Operates!

The 3 Primary Motives Behind Romance Scams, and why it’s so hard to get justice

The FBI tells us that Romance Scams are the most common form of fraud in today’s society. And I don’t use the word “fraud” loosely. As most of you who’ve read my material know, lies only constitute a crime when the victim suffers harm. ‘Til then, lies are just lies.

When the offender crosses that line in the sand that constitutes injury to the other party, they are actually committing a crime. Their Continue reading The 3 Primary Motives Behind Romance Scams, and why it’s so hard to get justice

What’s for lunch? Support a McDonald’s protester!

If the person who posted this tweet actually works for McDonalds, they’ll probably get fired. But let’s all express our support by buying a BigMac today and telling their staff how happy we are about their comment!

I’ve probably eaten two BigMacs in the past 10 years, but today, I’ll put my loathing for fast food aside to stand behind this statement, and I hope you will too!

Here’s a link to the article.

March is Fraud Awareness Month!

#FraudAwarenessMonth

The Canadian Anti-Fraud Centre, in a CBC News article, stated that only about 10% of romance scams actually get reported to the police. If that’s the case, the losses of $99 million in Canada’s reported romance scam cases actually exceed hundreds of millions! They also calculate the average monetary loss per victim to be approximately $25,000.00. The FBI’s figures in the US top a billion dollars per year!  Continue reading March is Fraud Awareness Month!

New Spelling for “CONSENT” will stand RAPE MENTALITY on it’s ear!

Consent = Freely Given Knowledgeable & Informed Agreement!
Consent = Freely Given Knowledgeable & Informed Agreement!

CONSENT could be the most misunderstood word in the English language! 

Millions of people are harmed by rape every year. And some offenders do not comprehend why or how their behavior constitutes RAPE.

Let’s get it right!

Continue reading New Spelling for “CONSENT” will stand RAPE MENTALITY on it’s ear!

What Important Book is NY’s Governor Cuomo Reading?

#GovernorCuomo and #JoyceShort

January 30th. What a day!

Zipping through the Taconic Parkway’s twists and turns, on a crisp, sunny, winter morning, was just the exhilarating start! The best was yet to come!

I was headed to Albany for double duty- to meet Assembly Member, Rebecca Seawright‘s new Legislative Director, Cheryl Couser, in order to Continue reading What Important Book is NY’s Governor Cuomo Reading?

Melania Trump- The look of an abused woman!

Anyone who lives with abuse can see them self in these two interactions.  When he turns toward her, she smiles. When he turns away, her heartache is visible all over her face.

Melania’s been cowed, shamed, and pastes on a smile whenever it’s required. But notice, even though she seemed totally crest-fallen at whatever maliciousness Trump expressed toward her, she repressed any change in her facial expression ’til her oppressor turned away. She’s well-schooled in tolerating his despicable behavior. And as you can see, he can hurl harm without changing his own facial character one single iota. It’s all a show, and he’s the master showman.

While maintaining an artificial smile might assuage his intemperance in the privacy of their home, it sure doesn’t work while the cameras of the entire world are trained on their personal yet public interaction. She likely received  a sharp rebuke from these public showings of her feelings about him.

He’ll relegate her back to her gilded cage in Trump Tower as soon, and as much as possible.

A picture speaks a thousand words!

Heaven help this poor woman!

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