The FBI tells us that Romance Scams are the most common form of fraud in today’s society. And I don’t use the word “fraud” loosely. As most of you who’ve read my material know, lies only constitute a crime when the victim suffers harm. ‘Til then, lies are just lies.
Every time a woman who was raped, and knows of Trump’s abuse of women, sees or hears Donald Trump, they cringe from the feeling that their defilement is of no importance to society. Their only saving grace is that the majority of Americans did not support that grossly indecent man.
How to get past the reminder?
“It’s not the majority” has become the mantra that enables me to get past those reminders that cut deeply into my psyche. And it makes me doubly determined to wake society up to the real meaning of rape!
Ivanna exemplifies misconceptions about rape
Certainly, his wife, Ivanna, didn’t know. She testified under oath that he raped her. But once she’d secured a $15MM settlement to shut her mouth, she claimed “Oh, but it wasn’t “criminal” rape.” She’s not an attorney. She’s not the police. She’s neither the judge nor the jury. She’s the victim whose silence was bought off by a shameless, wealthy man.
Is there such a thing as non-criminal rape?
Every form of rape is CRIMINAL! That includes spousal rape! Whenever consent is lacking in sex, it’s rape, plain and simple! And even the criminal code in NY State, where Ivanna was raped, recognizes that spousal rape is rape, under the law!
If we have learned anything from Trump’s eery, and probably illegitimate, rise to authority, it’s that we must put an end to rape culture in society and expose what rape actually is….. NON-CONSENSUAL SEX! And it does not matter how non-consensual sex takes place….
Whether consent was undermined by:
RAPE IS RAPE!
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I just received an important notice from the NYC chapter of NOW.
The cause of NOW’s outrage is the statements made by Commanding Officer, Captain Peter Rose when explaining why only 2 out of 13 recent rape cases were solved. He said: “Some of them were Tinder, some of them were hook-up sites, some of them were actually co-workers. It’s not a trend that we’re too worried about because out of 13, only two were true stranger rapes” Continue reading #NOW Is Outraged at the NYPD!” #TakeRapeSeriously!”→
In Kansas City MO, thirty-three year old Mario Antoine is facing 21 federal charges, from cyber-stalking to extortion, for scamming women into sex on the premise that he was a porn videographer and they were auditioning for a part. The FBI handled the investigation, and the Federal Prosecutor was quoted by the Kansas City Star as saying he’s a “serial rapist.” But rape is a state, not a federal crime. Continue reading How to get away with rape in Missouri! The Mario Antoine case→
Federal Prosecutors described alleged sex scammer, Mario Ambrose Antoine as a “serial rapist” and put a current case of Rape by Fraud center stage in main stream media! The case was filed with 6 complainants but 25 additional woman have stepped forward since the Kansas City Star went public with the information on Monday. If you were harmed by this man, contact the Kansas City MO office of the FBI at 816-512-8200.
After an absence of eight years, he either decided to taunt me or absurdly thought that leaving me a voicemail message of “I love you” from a blocked phone, would be appreciated. As if that wasn’t painful enough…. Continue reading Holiday Struggles- Lament and Loss→
On Sunday, November 15th, the Speaker of the Assembly in Arunachal Pradesh, India, Nabam Rebia, was charged with physical and mental assault, based on his “false promise to marry” by his live-in girlfriend of four years. A First Information Report, (FIR,) which enables the police to arrest without warrant, was drawn up based on her complaints. FIRs are Continue reading New Sexual Assault by Fraud Case in India→
There’s something very ironic about the name of the prison that Orenthal James Simpson, the man known to the world as “OJ,” now calls home…….Lovelock Correctional Center. It’s a fitting place for someone acquitted of murdering his ex-wife and her friend 20 years ago, tomorrow. Continue reading OJ’s Acquittal Anniversary- 10/3→
Every day for the past few months, I’ve noticed a significant increase in articles on Oxytocin, the neuropeptide that’s at the very heart, (yes, pun intended,) of human bonding. From stories about creating trust with our pet pooches, to black-market trafficking, Continue reading Oxytocin-The media is catching on! →
The neuropeptide, oxytocin, along with others, provides connection “chemistry.”
Some people are more easily seduced because they’re more compelled by bonding chemistry than others. In the case of Barbara Tatge, a Boston Marathon runner from TN, she seemed immediately smitten by a man she randomly kissed, Continue reading Oxytocin at its finest!→
William Allen Jordan, who defrauded NJ resident Mischele Lewis of sex and money, took a plea deal, for 3 years behind bars, today! In addition, he’ll be required to pay $4,383 in restitution, and a $15,000 fine. He can have no contact with Lewis for the rest of his life. His sentence begins on February 6, 2015.
How I Got Involved
I wrote about the romance scam that happened to me in Carnal Abuse by Deceit, to help people recognize and recover from Rape by Fraud or Deception. Because my story involves the publisher for Elvis Presley and the artists that recorded for Sun Records, I felt it could raise awareness. Putting a name on the behavior allows society to speak about and understand it. Up until my book launched on November 20, 2013, hardly a soul discussed this defiling and heart wrenching crime, including Mischele Lewis….. that is……. until she read my book.
Donna Anderson, another blogger, introduced me to Mischele. She had read and reviewed Carnal Abuse by Deceit on her blog. She gave me information about Mischele and asked if I thought she had a case. She also asked if I could give her some guidance. Since I wrote my story to bring this crime to light, and help victims get clarity, I was happy to do so. My book had been out for about 4 months when I met Mischele.
I explained the crime of rape by fraud or deception to Mischele. NJ no longer uses the term “rape.” Instead, they classify such crimes as sexual assault. While they have no specific crime of sexual assault by fraud or deception, their “consent” definition is clear that deception negates consent.
Jordan was arrested
Although Mischele portrays that she got Jordan arrested on her own, she did not. At her request, I wrote an analysis of the NJ statutes for the police. Donna, Mischele and I all went to the precinct together to file the complaint against Jordan, and I gave the police the summary and two copies of Carnal Abuse by Deceit.Two days later, they arrested Jordan for 3rd degree sexual assault by coercion, 2nd degree robbery by fraud, and impersonating an officer.
While I dealt with determining what statutes could apply, Donna had arranged a photographer to snap pictures of Jordan’s arrest for the Daily Mail.
Jordan, a convicted child molester and bigamist, had created an elaborate con to hoodwink Lewis into a sexual and emotional relationship. He should have been listed as a sex offender on Meagan’s List. But because he was convicted in the UK, his crimes went unreported when the British authorities drop-kicked him across the Atlantic to prey on the women of New Jersey.
What I found deeply disturbing about Jordan was that he goes after women with daughters. I felt that the Prosecutor should have pressed harder to put a known offender who’s a danger to children behind bars.
The Grand Jury failed to indict Jordan for sexual assault by coercion because he had not coerced Lewis. Quite the contrary; he had charmed her. In fact, when I watched his behavior in the courtroom, I found him to be overly gracious, even solicitous, with a non-threatening demeanor. When he pleaded a point to the judge, I was amused that he tried to persuade him with charm. But the judge was unmoved by it.
In New Jersey, “coercion” means the threat of harm, including non-violent harm toward yourself or others. Jordan never used threats to seduce Mischele. In some states, coercion also includes concealment. I saw nothing in the New Jersey statutes to link concealment with coercion in their penal code.
Unlike a recent claim that Lewis made on Dateline, stating that the sexual assault charge didn’t prevail because Jordan was not violent toward her, that was not the case. Violence need not be present to arrest for sexual assault in New Jersey. The Grand Jury failed to indict because the Prosecutor used “coercion,” the charge that didn’t have a snowball’s chance in hell of sticking.
Why did the Prosecutor pursue a charge that was destined to fail?
Mischele was in the process of securing a publisher for her story, and the Prosecutor was loathe to step into that can of worms. It appeared he didn’t want to be in the middle of her attempt to turn what happened to her into her personal cash cow, so he selected a charge that would fail.
The involvement of myself and Donna, two authors with significant blog followings and the ability to reach out to the media, made it difficult to ignore the case entirely, But Mischele’s behavior, going after a man on a site that identified him as an “established” man, made her look like a gold-digger…. not a victim who would evoke sympathy as a test case for such a crime.
Mischele had read the book by Mary Turner Thomson, Jordan’s previous wife, and went to great lengths to get him arrested in order to create a book of her own. I started getting wise to her penchant for copying others when she said she was xeroxing a chapter of my book, one devoted to the law, for her attorney. I reminded her that books are copyrighted and that xeroxing any part of my book was not okay. I offered to provide him with the book free of charge if it would help.
But getting back to the case……
I believed that either simple “Sexual Assault,” or “Aggravated Sexual Assault” would have worked. But it’s hard to have a meaningful discussion with a Prosecutor who doesn’t want to listen, even though I tried. Jordan pleaded guilty to the two remaining charges. But, as I had warned, the Grand Jury failed to indict on the “Sexual Assault by Coercion” charge.
After Jordan’s sentencing hearing, I talked about the “charge” issue with Steve Eife, the ADA on the case. I asked him why he didn’t charge Jordan with Sexual Assault, per my suggestion, which would have rested entirely on “consent” not “coercion.” Also, Jordan had committed additional crimes against her which would have raised the level of the charge to “aggravated.” He’d admitted to lying in order to defraud her of money. Those same lies defrauded her of sex.
I’d seen the Model Penal Code definition of “consent” in New Jersey’s criminal code….
“Consent is ineffective when induced by deception.”
Eife denied that Model Penal Code applied in New Jersey. I went back to my research and found those exact, specific terms in the New Jersey statutes. Even recently, I had a similar discussion with Eife’s boss, Burlington County Chief Prosecutor Robert Bernardi, who stated the same nonsense, “We’re not a Model Penal Code state,” he said. Here’s a link to a post I wrote concerning that conversation. I call it “Dumb and Dumber in Suits.”
The Ongoing Battle
Meanwhile, Assemblyman Troy Singleton took up the fight to patch the hole in New Jersey’s criminal code…. the one Jordan fell through. Although I’d been very specific to Mischele about what was needed in the law, she chose to disregard my advice. I was in the process of writing my second book, Combating Romance Scamsand had researched what was needed. But she wanted to pass a bill she could take total credit for. Her bill failed.
Society needs much greater awareness and a much broader effort to achieve the goal of outlawing sexual assault by fraud. I’ve written Combating Romance Scams, Why Lying to Get Laid Is a Crime! to introduce the easily replicated language that each state can adopt, and to counter the backlash and misunderstanding of nay-sayers and people who think of your body as an entitlement, not a privilege.
I was recently honored to have a conversation about creating such a law with the Governor of NY State, Andrew Cuomo, and to put Combating Romance Scams into his hands. I explained why passing new legislation to curb this defiling crime is so important to society. I was introduced to Governor Cuomo by my Assembly Member, Rebecca Seawright, who is studying this issue in order to outlaw romance scams that contain rape by fraud or deception in New York.
I’ve also created a network, The FORRSC,The Fight to Outlaw Rape and Romance Scam Crimes. It’s working to pass legislation in several states. You can join The FORRSC today and help to bring romance scams, like what happened to Mischele and countless victims around the world, to a screeching halt. Joining is free!
Combating Romance Scams is also available in Kindle form. From now through Valentine’s Day, the price is only $3.99. And it’s free to lend to anyone who you’d like to read it. You can be an important part of spreading the word to enlighten society!
Sexual assault by fraud is a crime epidemic. If you need help recovering from this type of scam, I’m just an email message away. Write to me at StopRomanceScams@yahoo.com.