Tag Archives: #SexualAssault

Support CA Rape Survivors Bill Today!

Update-

Congratulations to the residents and legislators of California! This bill was approved yesterday. BTW- Yesterday, when I spoke to someone in the office of Asm. Reggie Jones-Sawyer, she told me the phones have been ringing off the hook! Good work everyone!

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Tomorrow, March 29th, the California Legislature will vote on the “Rape Survivor’s Civil Rights Bill,” AB1312, introduced by Assembly Members Gonzalez, Fletcher and Berman.

Continue reading Support CA Rape Survivors Bill Today!

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The 3 Primary Motives Behind Romance Scams, and why it’s so hard to get justice

The FBI tells us that Romance Scams are the most common form of fraud in today’s society. And I don’t use the word “fraud” loosely. As most of you who’ve read my material know, lies only constitute a crime when the victim suffers harm. ‘Til then, lies are just lies.

When the offender crosses that line in the sand that constitutes injury to the other party, they are actually committing a crime. Their Continue reading The 3 Primary Motives Behind Romance Scams, and why it’s so hard to get justice

New Spelling for “CONSENT” will stand RAPE MENTALITY on it’s ear!

Consent = Freely Given Knowledgeable & Informed Agreement!
Consent = Freely Given Knowledgeable & Informed Agreement!

CONSENT could be the most misunderstood word in the English language! 

Millions of people are harmed by rape every year. And some offenders do not comprehend why or how their behavior constitutes RAPE.

Let’s get it right!

Continue reading New Spelling for “CONSENT” will stand RAPE MENTALITY on it’s ear!

Were you hooked? Join The FORRSC! Today!

A new law can stop romance scams in their tracks! And you can be a vital part of that change!

Join The FORRSC! today! It’s free! And it’s working in states across the US to outlaw all rape and romance scam crimes! Members of The FORRSC! will play a crucial role in enacting laws against all forms of non-consensual sex in their state.

Note: None of the information on the following form will be publicly released.

 

 

#NOW Is Outraged at the NYPD!” #TakeRapeSeriously!”

Join the NOW demonstration on January 10th!
Join the NOW demonstration on January 10th!

FOLLOW-UP

Video of today’s demonstration. Click Here!

INITIAL POST

I just received an important notice from the NYC chapter of NOW.

NYPD Captain, Peter Rose
NYPD Captain, Peter Rose

The cause of NOW’s outrage is the statements made by Commanding Officer, Captain Peter Rose when explaining why only 2 out of 13  recent rape cases were solved. He said: “Some of them were Tinder, some of them were hook-up sites, some of them were actually co-workers. It’s not a trend that we’re too worried about because out of 13, only two were true stranger rapes” Continue reading #NOW Is Outraged at the NYPD!” #TakeRapeSeriously!”

Oregon- Will Rape by Fraud be Prosecuted there?

Mt Hood overlooking Portland Oregon
Mt Hood overlooking Portland Oregon

Oregon is noted for its vastly diverse and stunning landscapes. And if anyone has a case of rape by fraud, it might also become known as the state that upheld honesty in sexual relations!  Continue reading Oregon- Will Rape by Fraud be Prosecuted there?

Is Donald Trump a “Sexual Psychopath?” The Law in DC

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Arianne Zucker, Actress ogled by Trump, surrounded by Trump and Billy Bush who lost his job over the ogling incident. While the offensive words didn’t come out of Bush’s mouth, it cost him his job. But it cost Trump nothing. What’s wrong with this picture!!

Be Careful Mr. President-Elect! Washington DC has an interesting law that could be your undoing!

DC Code § 22–3803. Definitions.

Continue reading Is Donald Trump a “Sexual Psychopath?” The Law in DC

Catcalls Banned in Argentina!

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The femicide crisis in South America is staggering……..

According to the BBC- a woman dies from femicide every other day in Columbia, every day in Argentina, 5 per day in Mexico and 15 per day in Brazil.

The culture of femicide is so ingrained in the lifestyle that on Wednesday, the City Council in Buenos Aires, Argentina, passed an Continue reading Catcalls Banned in Argentina!

Help Spread the Word: #CombatRomanceScams!

Are you wondering why rape by fraud is a crime?

This video can answer your basic questions and help get Combating Romance Scams launched!

Please help support this effort! Watch the video and pre-register for your copy today!

By doing so, you’ll help put an end to cases like that of William Allen Jordan and Mario Antoine who shamelessly prey on victims for non-consensual sex. This crime harms millions of innocent lives each day. Together, we can make it stop!

How to get away with rape in Missouri! The Mario Antoine case

#MarioAntoine Is he a #SerialRapist

In Kansas City MO, thirty-three year old Mario Antoine is facing 21 federal charges, from cyber-stalking to extortion, for scamming women into sex on the premise that he was a porn videographer and they were auditioning for a part. The FBI handled the investigation, and the Federal Prosecutor was quoted by the Kansas City Star as saying he’s a “serial rapist.” But rape is a state, not a federal crime. Continue reading How to get away with rape in Missouri! The Mario Antoine case

Remember That Time You……. Lied to get laid!

#Remeberthattimeyou

 

 

 

 

Mogul, a wonderful internet community that promotes women’s issues around the globe came up with a fabulous concept to raise awareness for Domestic Violence Awareness Month;     #RememberThatTimeYou……….. Continue reading Remember That Time You……. Lied to get laid!

Step Up NY!!

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If a romance scam happened to you in NY, please contact me!

Law & Order SVU did a great job of presenting a rape by fraud case this past Wednesday. If you’ve yet to see the episode, here’s the link. You can watch it right here on your computer!

Enough for fiction…. We need real life cases to enact a law! And I believe we can create a solid movement to get it done in New York!

Don’t be shy folks! Send me your story! I’m listening!

Write to me at StopRomanceScams@yahoo.com

 

Rape by Fraud Goes Prime Time! Law & Order

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Addendum: For anyone who missed the airing on Wednesday, here’s the link!

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I almost fell off my chair!

After advocating for almost four years to bring sexual assault by fraud out of the darkness…. there’s a prime time light at the end of that cavernous and lonely tunnel!

I was home relaxing and watching tv. Vice President Biden appeared on this week’s Law & Order and the episode was compelling, but it’s what came afterward that was such a shock! The trailer announced that next week’s episode will address, “If someone lies to have sex Continue reading Rape by Fraud Goes Prime Time! Law & Order

Contamination – What an apt description for sexual assault!

Brock Turner’s victim hit on an exceptionally descriptive term to explain how rape made her feel. Even though she was unconscious during the entire episode, she expressed, in her stirring statement, that she felt “contaminated.” Continue reading Contamination – What an apt description for sexual assault!

Read VICE Today! Is Lying to Get Laid a Form of Sexual Assault?

VICE

Read Neil McArthur’s insightful article on Sexual Assault by Fraud! 

Be sure to enter the conversation!

Here’s the link: http://www.vice.com/en_ca/read/is-lying-to-get-laid-a-form-of-sexual-assault

Terrible miscarriage of justice in MA! Clearly, Sexual Assault by Fraud!

 

Did #MarianRyan let a #SexOffender off the hook?
Marian T. Ryan, District Attorney of Middlesex County, Massachusetts

Did Middlesex DA Marian Ryan let a sex offender wriggle off the hook? At best, she made an unfortunate decision last week. She failed to arrest Dr. Roger Ian Hardy for inappropriately rubbing a patient’s genitals under the guise of a “medical examination.” Patients have complained about this doctor for years! Continue reading Terrible miscarriage of justice in MA! Clearly, Sexual Assault by Fraud!

What do “Mistresses” and Joe Paterno have in common?

Mistresses

I confess….. I was addicted to “Mad Men.” Recorded every episode.

Since I can’t get lost in the exploits of Donald Draper any longer, I’ve turned to “Mistresses” and “The Bachelor” for my “bad-relationship” fixes. Analyzing whether the creators stick to the realistic affects of oxytocin is a favorite pastime of mine. And Continue reading What do “Mistresses” and Joe Paterno have in common?

Are FL Police Under-Serving a Mentally Challenged Rape Victim?

Did #DanielMichaelFarris commit #SexScam?
Daniel Michael Farris, Pinellas County Sheriff’s Office

Florida uses the term “sexual battery” instead of “rape.” And its statutes specifically define that sexual battery takes place when the victim has a mental defect or disease which renders them temporarily or permanently incapable of appraising the nature of his or her conduct.
Continue reading Are FL Police Under-Serving a Mentally Challenged Rape Victim?

Dust-Off! Steps 6 & 7- How to Heal From a Romance Scam

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Tomorrow is Truth in Romance Day! And this is our final  installment of the Dust-Off Plan for Recovery from a Romance Scam. This last crucial step should have you well on your way to reclaiming your  self-esteem and dignity. We’ll end with the letters “F & F.”

Continue reading Dust-Off! Steps 6 & 7- How to Heal From a Romance Scam

Brock Turner- Lessons Learned

Brock Allen Turner, Covicted Sex Offender
Brock Allen Turner, Convicted Sex Offender

In three separate studies, one in the Midwest, one in CA and one in Canada, separated by 30 years, men were asked, “If you could force a woman to have sex with you, and you knew you wouldn’t get caught, would you do it.?” Consistently, over 30% of the participants said “Yes.” Then they were asked, “If you could rape a woman, knowing you could get away with it, would you do it?” The number of “Yes” responses dropped to approximately 13%. Obviously, 17% of the participants had no idea they were simply being asked the same question using different wording.

Why so many words for “rape?”

Today, states have adopted a variety of words for “rape” in order to get the defilement of non-consensual sex across to their populations…. sexual assault, sexual battery, sexual misconduct, etc. They seem to be throwing the baby out with the bath water; however, because the public doesn’t grasp that it’s all the same horrid defilement of sexual sanctity….. just using different words.  I even saw a recent argument that Brock Turner didn’t rape the woman, he “only” sexually assaulted her….. so his punishment shouldn’t be so harsh!

Consent. Do we really need to say more? 

The principle premise for all sex crimes, no matter what you call them, is lack of consent. And a great many folks don’t really know what “consent” means. It doesn’t mean that you nodded your head and said “yes” when someone tricked you into doing so. Nor does it mean that you didn’t object because you were too incapacitated at the time, or froze because you were terrorized.

Most folks, including legislators and police officers don’t clearly understand that there’s a cavernous gap between “assenting” and “consenting” to sex. When you nod you head, “yes,” if the person has tricked you, drugged you, intoxicated you, or pursued sex with you upon finding you in those conditions – or unconscious –  they know full well that you’re not “consenting” to sex.

Violence is an aggressive, aggravated form of rape, which deserves the utmost penalty. But there are quiet, insidious, covert forms of rape as well. All should be punished. Consent means that you are fully knowledgeable, informed and voluntarily cooperating. Model Penal Code distinctly tells us that consent that is “tricked” from us is not “voluntary.”  Any sex act performed without consent is a crime.

Not all sex crimes can be prosecuted; not because they didn’t happen, but because there is insufficient proof for a conviction. But whether there is or is not a sufficient body of proof to try the case, the offender committed a criminal act and knows that they did so.  Our penal codes in every state should be consistent in dealing with and prosecuting sexual defilement.

Nazi Germany and Consent

Nuremberg Trials
Nuremberg Trials

The Nuremberg Trials from World War II gave us a clear understanding of what “consent” truly means. I have included the explanation in (soon-to-be-released) Don’t Swallow That Catfish Hook. What follows is how “consent” should be explained by the penal codes of every state. This explanation has been adapted directly from the Nuremberg Code appearing in Federal regulation that was established due to medical experiments conducted on concentration camp prisoners. It guides our knowledge of both “assent” and “consent” today.

Assent – Superficial agreement which is given “on the face of it.” Assent provides acquiescence and compliance, but lacks the characteristics of being informed and knowledgeable about the action taking place. Example:, a child who is not yet the age of “reason” can only provide “assent,” but their parents are required to provide “consent” on their behalf.
Consent – A person providing consent must have legal capacity to give consent; should be so situated as to be able to exercise free power of choice without the intervention of any element of force, fraud, deceit, duress, over-reaching, or other ulterior form of constraint or coercion; and should have sufficient knowledge and comprehension of the sexual partner and action taking place to enable her or him to make an understood and enlightened decision.

Brock Turner’s father showed us exactly why Brock Turner is a sex offender!

Dan Turner, Brock’s father, never taught his son the defilement of rape because he failed to understand it himself. He wrote to the judge to request leniency for his son who was convicted of  sexually assaulting an unconscious woman.

  • His minimization of the harm the victim endured in his statement that his son shouldn’t  have to go to prison “for 20 minutes of action,” reflects a grossly flawed misconception about the impacts of violating a person’s sexual sanctity.
  • He also stated: “He has no prior criminal history and has never been violent to anyone including his actions on the night of Jan 17th 2015.” Somehow, in Mr. Turner’s eyes, violence is the only harm one person can inflict on another. Defiling a person by touching their genitals without their permission is inconsequential to him. I wonder what he’d say if this happened to his daughter.

An  absurd statement also came from Brock Turner’s long-time friend, Leslie Rasmussen, drummer for the band, Good English. “Rape on campus isn’t always because people are rapists,” she said. She expressed concern that alcohol changed people’s behaviors and made them do things they otherwise would not do. Perhaps Brock Turner’s case can serve as a warning to college students who think drinking and partying are benign behaviors…. just fun and “normal” entertainment.

When it comes to sex, every human being  on the planet is responsible to only engage with people they haven’t tricked, overwhelmed, or taken advantage of. What is so hard to understand about that? People who do so are, in fact, rapists. A person’s life can change in an instant when they lose control of themselves and harm others while in that condition.  That’s why drunks who kill people in DUIs go to jail. People who rape in that condition should go to jail as well.

For further details about the law that should be enacted in every state to properly identify the difference between “assenting” and “consenting” to sex, be sure to read Don’t Swallow That Catfish Hook when it’s released in July. Register for your copy by clicking this link. There’s no obligation and you may actually win a FREE Kindle Fire by doing so!