The Canadian Anti-Fraud Centre, in a CBC News article, stated that only about 10% of romance scams actually get reported to the police. If that’s the case, the losses of $99 million in Canada’s reported romance scam cases actually exceed hundreds of millions! They also calculate the average monetary loss per victim to be approximately $25,000.00. The FBI’s figures in the US top a billion dollars per year! Continue reading March is Fraud Awareness Month!
Here are some lyrics in search of a melody! Can you come up with one? Know someone who can? If so, post it on YouTube and send me the link! Free book for the best song! Continue reading Put It to Music! F-G-K-&-I-A!
January 30th. What a day!
Zipping through the Taconic Parkway’s twists and turns, on a crisp, sunny, winter morning, was just the exhilarating start! The best was yet to come!
I was headed to Albany for double duty- to meet Assembly Member, Rebecca Seawright‘s new Legislative Director, Cheryl Couser, in order to Continue reading What Important Book is NY’s Governor Cuomo Reading?
MO SVU Prosecutor Jill Icenhower was very specific about why she wasn’t bringing 2nd Degree Rape charges against Mario Antoine, the man who the Federal Prosecutor called a “Serial Rapist,” for the Continue reading Is the “Ice Princess” ignoring a rape case with 30+ victims?
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By doing so, you’ll help put an end to cases like that of William Allen Jordan and Mario Antoine who shamelessly prey on victims for non-consensual sex. This crime harms millions of innocent lives each day. Together, we can make it stop!
Federal Prosecutors described alleged sex scammer, Mario Ambrose Antoine as a “serial rapist” and put a current case of Rape by Fraud center stage in main stream media! The case was filed with 6 complainants but 25 additional woman have stepped forward since the Kansas City Star went public with the information on Monday. If you were harmed by this man, contact the Kansas City MO office of the FBI at 816-512-8200.
Here’s the latest article which Continue reading Sex Scammer Faces Fed Prison
Reported by Ron Blitzer at DailyNewz, Eric Schneiderman, Attorney General of New York State had this to say about Trump University……
“It’s fraud. This is straight up fraud! It’s like selling people something you say is a Mercedes and it turns out to be a Volkswagen. And even Continue reading What do Trump U and Lying to Get Laid have in Common?
Tracy Malone, whose YouTube channel focuses on narcissists – from what they are to how they operate and how you can spot them – just posted her in-depth interview on why lying to get laid is a crime! She and I sat for quite some time discussing the important questions that people need to know! You can see the entire interview on this link.
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Nothing compares to the terror of violent rape. But victims of rape by fraud suffer debilitating loss of self esteem, problems with trust, fear and humiliation. This crime should not go unpunished or unrecognized! Here are my recommendations for penalty:
SEXUAL ASSAULT BY FRAUD
Class E Felony punishable by 0-4 years of incarceration. The minimum sentence should be as follows:
FIRST OFFENSE (Only)
Sex Offender List: Two Years
Society needs protection from the exploits of the offender. The victim has been sexually assaulted and their psyche will undergo considerable turmoil to recover their dignity and self esteem. A reasonable amount of time in therapy will be two years. The offender should be cognizant of the harm they created for that same period and suffer a loss of face for the period. Therefore, they should be required to register as a sex offender for two years.
- Therapy: The cost for therapy should be borne by the offender for the two year period. A reasonable expense for that therapy would be $20,000.00; therefore, they should pay a fine in the amount of the therapy the victim needs.
- Education: No one can teach another human being to have emotional empathy. It is a condition, and either you have it or you don’t. However, enlightening the offender regarding the laws of “consent” and misuse of the “laws of attraction” will enable them to grasp how they should conduct themselves in the future. The offender should bare the cost of education in the amount of $5,000.
The offender committed a crime, and all crimes are not only committed against the victim, but also, against the state. For the two year period, they should be required to conduct strenuous community service.
Child Support and Custody
No victim of sexual assault by fraud should ever be forced to conduct ongoing contact with their rapist. All cases in which a pregnancy resulted from sexual assault by fraud should require appropriate financial child support by the offender. Full custody should be awarded to the victim and the offender should be granted limited and tightly supervised visitation.
Two to five years of incarceration. Appropriate fines, education and Sex Offender Registry.
- All repeat offenses should be treated as “aggravated.”
- All cases in which the offender committed additional crimes against the victim such as grand theft, credit card fraud, theft by fraud or immigration fraud should be treated as “aggravated.”
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Addendum: For anyone who missed the airing on Wednesday, here’s the link!
I almost fell off my chair!
After advocating for almost four years to bring sexual assault by fraud out of the darkness…. there’s a prime time light at the end of that cavernous and lonely tunnel!
I was home relaxing and watching tv. Vice President Biden appeared on this week’s Law & Order and the episode was compelling, but it’s what came afterward that was such a shock! The trailer announced that next week’s episode will address, “If someone lies to have sex Continue reading Rape by Fraud Goes Prime Time! Law & Order
Brock Turner’s victim hit on an exceptionally descriptive term to explain how rape made her feel. Even though she was unconscious during the entire episode, she expressed, in her stirring statement, that she felt “contaminated.” Continue reading Contamination – What an apt description for sexual assault!
Received this tweet today from a listener from yesterday’s CBC Broadcast on Sexual Assault by Fraud……
|@jm_short it’s up to us, all people, to find out who a person is before we have sex with them. people need to stop being cavalier about sex.|
I’ll call her MindyLimoDriver
Mindy’s mentality shows misplaced responsibility. I simply answered “Ignorance is bliss, stay happy!” because the correct response would not fit in a tweet. And if it were an isolated incident, I’d let it go…… but it’s a very common misconception. She’s the drop that overflowed the bucket of my tolerance.
Obviously “all people” have a responsibility to behave as a “reasonable” person would do. In fact, those specific words come right out of the penal code of New Jersey. But some sexual predators are so ruthless that they can’t be spotted by any “reasonable” means. And the law on sexual assault by fraud or Continue reading Victim Blaming- A skewed and cynical view of the world!
Jim Brown, an award winning producer and the highly acclaimed host of The 180 – CBC’s national radio show to spark conversation on what’s going on in Canada – jumped right in with the important questions ….
“People often tell little white lies to impress a possible partner, At what point do those lies add up to fraud? “
The entire broadcast aired at 11 am (EST) on Sunday morning, 9/11. You can hear it all, and respond with your comments on the PodCast.
Read Neil McArthur’s insightful article on Sexual Assault by Fraud!
Be sure to enter the conversation!
Here’s the link: http://www.vice.com/en_ca/read/is-lying-to-get-laid-a-form-of-sexual-assault
Cited as “Draconian but necessary,” a Sexual Harm Prevention Order (SHPO) was recently issued against 44 year old UK electrician, Geoffrey Ball. Ball had been found guilty of sexual offenses toward women and is no longer allowed to have a relationship of any sort with a woman, without express permission by the police.
Such orders should be available to US authorities in order to prevent Continue reading UK’s Extreme Solution to Combat Sex Crimes
Why celebrate Truth in Romance Day?
Mankind’s most basic function is procreation. And the attraction that stimulates our romantic brain chemistry in order for us to mate can begin with the slightest interaction between two people. Our perceptions and impressions of a person can be shaped by fact or fiction, but it all feels the same in the mind of the believer. We’re built to bond and fall in love. Continue reading Don’t Lie to Get Laid! Happy Truth in Romance Day!
From now ’til June 15th, Truth in Romance Day, read each crucial step to help romance scam victims reclaim their self-esteem and dignity. Today, we’ll cover the letter “O”. Continue reading Dust-Off! Step 5- How to Heal From a Romance Scam!
From now ’til June 15th, Truth in Romance Day, I’ll identify each crucial step to help romance scam victims reclaim their self-esteem and dignity. Today, we’ll deal with the letter “U”.
The entire DUST-OFF Plan For Recovery from sexual assault by fraud is revealed in Carnal Abuse by Deceit, How a Predator’s Lies Became Rape.
Undue pressure is counterproductive to healing!
Understand that healing Is NOT a return to your former self! Every experience we encounter enables us to grow.
Often people who have been damaged believe the end goal is to wash away all remembrance of pain and return to the person they once were, but there is no going back. The expectation of recovering your former self can serve to depress you because it is an unobtainable goal and will be a constant disappointment. Once you can take strength from having lived through your ordeal, you’re on your way toward recovery.
Time and distance will ease your pain. And if you can grieve the loss of your innocence, the loss of the person you were, you can put it behind you. You are wiser now. Employ that wisdom to keep yourself safe from predators in the future.
You will often hear the concept of “forgiveness” used as a means to overcome the effects of wrongdoing. Forgiveness does not mean having to forget what happened or excuse it. Rather, it means accepting that it happened to you. A morally disordered person will not care in the least whether you forgive them or not, so don’t forgive them for their sake, forgive them for yours.
We often keep anger close to our hearts when we have suffered gross injustice. Doing so erodes our own sense of well-being by focusing us on pain and creating hyper-vigilance. We need to refocus ourselves on the good things in our lives in order to make room for joy to find its way back in. It is difficult to put anger aside. It takes considerable practice, but it gets easier in time as life takes on new meanings and the episode you survived fades into your past.
The entire Dust-Off! plan for recovery is included in Carnal Abuse by Deceit. Click the title to purchase your copy.
From now ’til June 15th, Truth in Romance Day, I’ll identify each crucial step to help romance scam victims reclaim their self-esteem and dignity. Today, we’ll start with the letter “D”.
The entire Dust-Off Plan For Recovery from sexual assault by fraud is revealed in Carnal Abuse by Deceit, How a Predator’s Lies Became Rape.
Here’s step one…….
Don’t Shame or Blame Yourself!
Predators excel at making victims feel responsible for their harmful behavior. Don’t! No one has the right to expect you to be perfect, not even you. No one has the right to harm you either emotionally or physically for your imperfections or for any other reason.
Be alert to gas-lighting which is a manipulative and common ploy of predators. They will deliberately upset you, then fault you for being upset. Their intent is to make you doubt yourself or to put your “upset” reaction under a microscope for others to observe, out of context. A predator can depress you to the extent that you begin to doubt your sanity, and cause others to do so as well.
Recognize that you were in the wrong place at the wrong time when you happened into their space. They’ve made you wiser to the concept that fundamentally cruel people actually exist. You will not be as naïve and easy to snare the next time you enter a predator’s lair.
Forgive yourself. You didn’t know they were lying when you fell in love with them. No one lies by accident. They deliberately set out to fool you. Do not let their immorality strip you of your self-worth.
Write a letter to yourself reminding you of all your lovable and virtuous characteristics.
- Store your letter where it’s easily accessible.
- Read that letter at least three times each day for one week.
- For the following month, before you dress each day and before you go to sleep each night, read it again.
- Hang onto the letter and go back to it whenever an encounter makes you doubt yourself.
The entire Dust-Off! plan for recovery is included in Carnal Abuse by Deceit. Click the title to purchase your copy.