Tag Archives: #sociopath

The 3 Primary Motives Behind Romance Scams, and why it’s so hard to get justice

The FBI tells us that Romance Scams are the most common form of fraud in today’s society. And I don’t use the word “fraud” loosely. As most of you who’ve read my material know, lies only constitute a crime when the victim suffers harm. ‘Til then, lies are just lies.

When the offender crosses that line in the sand that constitutes injury to the other party, they are actually committing a crime. Their Continue reading The 3 Primary Motives Behind Romance Scams, and why it’s so hard to get justice

Advertisements

New Spelling for “CONSENT” will stand RAPE MENTALITY on it’s ear!

Consent = Freely Given Knowledgeable & Informed Agreement!
Consent = Freely Given Knowledgeable & Informed Agreement!

CONSENT could be the most misunderstood word in the English language! 

Millions of people are harmed by rape every year. And some offenders do not comprehend why or how their behavior constitutes RAPE.

Let’s get it right!

Continue reading New Spelling for “CONSENT” will stand RAPE MENTALITY on it’s ear!

#SunRecords and the Shameful Back-Story of Deceit

The Million Dollar Quartet, 12/4/56, Jerry Lee Lewis, Carl Perkins, Elvis Presley, and Johnny Cash
The Million Dollar Quartet, 12/4/56, Jerry Lee Lewis, Carl Perkins, Elvis Presley, and Johnny Cash

Get out your rock ‘n roll shoes! CMT’s February release of Sun Records, the story of the creation of rock n’ roll, promises to be a big hit for country music fans!  For me, however, it’s the story of heinous, callous and personally harmful deceit; a treachery that stole food right out of the mouths of both my child and me, and caused indescribable pain. Continue reading #SunRecords and the Shameful Back-Story of Deceit

“In the Mind Fields”- A great read for sociopath survivors!

Click image to purchase on Amazon

Modern day psychiatry is poised on the cusp between studies of the brain and the mind. The first is called neuroscience: the latter is psychoanalysis. Casey Schwartz’s memoir depicts her academic adventure into both sides of the divide. By doing so she helps us recognize how and why we need to meld both disciplines together to truly understand sociopathy and other mental disorders. This new discipline is called neuropsychoanalysis. Continue reading “In the Mind Fields”- A great read for sociopath survivors!

UGA links OXT gene to social disorders

Psychopath

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Little noticed by much of society, a landmark study on the genetic link to character disorder was released on June 20th by researchers Continue reading UGA links OXT gene to social disorders

The Disaster of a Trump Presidency

So what’s wrong with electing Trump?
Trump2
I engaged in an interesting discussion on Salon this past Tuesday. Paul Campos wrote an insightful article. He said that Drumpf claimed (bragged) he’d negotiate with US creditors to accept less payment than what we’re obligated to pay. For Trump, that’s just business as usual.
9944400-Background-of-the-moneySome of the comments he received from Trump’s supporters showed absolute ignorance over how global debt actually works. Trump’s policy would be disastrous for the world’s economy. I wrote an explanation and got the following message from a reader: 

Continue reading The Disaster of a Trump Presidency

It’s Mother’s Day- Mothers of abusive kids have little to celebrate

baby

 

Rarely do we hear discussions where people who have character disordered kids can vent about their anguish. We look around on Mother’s Day and see all the joyous, wonderful expressions of appreciation we never received despite how hard we knocked ourselves out for our children. And we wonder what we have to celebrate.

I gave it some thought and decided to share….

If they’re grown and have moved away…. you can thank your lucky stars you’re no longer having to deal with their day-to-day abuse. They can stand on their feet despite what they say was the terrible job you did raising them.

They fought every effort you made to guide their development down a moral path. It was hard. But it’s done. You’re no longer responsible to build their character. And, no matter how much you love them, you don’t have to like them. You’re free of that burden.

You can be glad you know what being a mother was really like. If you didn’t know you’d be knocking yourself out over what you thought you’d missed. Instead, you know that lament would have just been wasted torment and totally unjustified.

Hoping all mothers of grown up abusive children get a sense of peace today knowing you did the best you could and being glad that now, they’re somebody else’s problem.

And I hope those who are still in the throws of raising them can find solace in knowing that time will pass and they’ll be out of the house one day.

Don’t tolerate their abuse

There is nothing to gain by doing so. They will not appreciate your caring and your tolerance won’t change them. In a character disordered mind, tolerance will make them feel entitled to abuse you more. Only proper therapy can make a difference and there have been great strides in understanding how character disorder develops in children. Get help, Find a specialist who, like Dr. Essi Vettig, Professor of Developmental Psychopathology at University College of London  knows; “Character disorder does not pop into their psyche as a birthday present when they turn 18.” Get strong. Make it your Mother’s Day gift to yourself.

Here are some signs you need to find a therapist for them: 
Tantrums and rage
Self harm
Breaking property
Impulsivity
Playing with fire
Oppositional Defiance
Animal mutilation
Truancy
Drug Abuse
Alcohol Abuse
Fighting
Gross and constant disrespect
When a child rages with no empathy or remorse and only thinks about their own needs and wants, beyond the age of six, it’s a sign that they are not developing a conscience. Get professional help before it becomes too late. Borderline Personality Disorder is a treatable condition  and the earlier it is caught, the more successfully it can be dealt with.  But at any age, treatment can help. While you may not be able to prevent character disorder in your child because genetic factors can influence their development, you can help their behavior become less anti-social than if left untreated.
© Copyright, Joyce M. Short- All rights reserved

Need to escape a sociopath’s grip? See yourself through their eyes!

eyes

Yup… you heard me right!

In order to pull yourself out from a sociopath’s control, and stop feeling the pangs of love that keep drawing you back…… put the emotional empathy that sets you apart from them to work on your behalf! Emotional empathy enables you to relate to the emotions of others. Take a good look at your relationship through their eyes, and you’ll never go back!

Continue reading Need to escape a sociopath’s grip? See yourself through their eyes!

When the parent of your child is a sociopath

Created with Microsoft Fresh Paint

When you discover that the person you share a relationship with is a sociopath, (including a malignant narcissist or psychopath,) the further you can separate from them, the better off you’ll be.  Unfortunately, there are circumstances that make doing so very difficult….

Continue reading When the parent of your child is a sociopath

Blurring the lines through the prism of Narcissism

prism

A narcissist will not see their behavior through the reality of cause and effect. Instead, they will use a distorted prism to blur the lines.  Continue reading Blurring the lines through the prism of Narcissism

Holiday Struggles- Lament and Loss

#turkey,#lament #loss #RichardMincheff #EdibleArtbyErin and #LyleMincheff #Aberbach #SusanAberbach #JeanAberbach #julianAberbach #ElvisPressley #JoachimAberbach

 

 

My son contacted me on Thanksgiving

After an absence of eight years, he either decided to taunt me or absurdly thought that leaving me a voicemail message of “I love you” from a blocked phone, would be appreciated. As if that wasn’t painful enough…. Continue reading Holiday Struggles- Lament and Loss

Oxytocin-The media is catching on! 

Lack of oxytocin can be at the heart of what creates sociopaths and psychopaths

 

Every day for the past few months, I’ve noticed a significant increase in articles on Oxytocin, the neuropeptide that’s at the very heart, (yes, pun intended,) of human bonding. From stories about creating trust with our pet pooches, to black-market trafficking, Continue reading Oxytocin-The media is catching on! 

No- You can’t come home- Alienation and emotionally disturbed children

mother-child

The Hows and Whys of Maternal Alienation

Mothers pour their love into their children. From the moment our eyes meet theirs, we’re swept into the desire to nurture, protect, and provide for the development of our tiny charge. The concept that this minute human being could ever grow up to hate us is so far off the radar screen that it’s just plain unimaginable.

So what interferes with the natural bond that one puts their total faith in? Unless a child is physically tormented on a regular basis, Continue reading No- You can’t come home- Alienation and emotionally disturbed children

The Color Wheel of Conscience

Color wheel of conscience

Why do some people become psychopaths while other don’t? Here’s my take on how it all fits together…. Continue reading The Color Wheel of Conscience

Comparing rape by fraud with date rape- Rochelle’s CAD Tale

Created with Microsoft Fresh Paint
Disguise the drink, or disguise the character…. both manipulate and undermine self-determination

A commentor I’ll call Rochelle left this heartfelt post. It’s a clear indication of the harm in rape by fraud that comes directly from the mouth of a woman who’d previously been date raped, a form of the crime we readily recognize in today’s penal codes throughout the world.

I’m frequently told that to consider tricking a person into sex as a form of “sexual assault” is an insult toward victims of violent or date rape.  Continue reading Comparing rape by fraud with date rape- Rochelle’s CAD Tale

Catfish, Sociopath or Scammer? Kaitlin’s CAD TALE

catfish

He’s just a scammer, not  a sociopath! You know…. a catfish con artist. Other than that, he’s a nice guy? Right?

Yup- that’s what the police officer told one recent victim when she described her harrowing run-in with the heartless con artist who defrauded her of sex, love and assets. I’ll call her Kaitlin.

Kaitlin met her Romeo, Kenneth, at work. He was the technologist Continue reading Catfish, Sociopath or Scammer? Kaitlin’s CAD TALE

What’s Tea Have to Do With Sexual Assault?

tea

Here’s a clever video that simplifies sexual “consent”. It gets the point across that if you ask someone if they want tea, you shouldn’t force them to take it, and includes a variety of very plausible scenarios.

Unfortunately, it also contains some gratuitous strong language, but hey, after all, it’s about sex. Presumably, we’re all adults.

The one thing I’d add… Continue reading What’s Tea Have to Do With Sexual Assault?

A Great Read on Oxytocin- Love Addiction

oxytocin romance obsession

Rachel Sanoff deserves a medal for her article on Bustle! Must reading for everyone who ever wondered why they were stuck Continue reading A Great Read on Oxytocin- Love Addiction

All Aboard for the Great Sociopathic Abuse and Recovery Blog Tour!

train

Experienced bloggers on the subject of Sociopathic Abuse and Recovery have joined hands for today to provide their knowledge and support!  You’ll find them all, and their links, listed below.

All aboard! The train is about to leave the station! Continue reading All Aboard for the Great Sociopathic Abuse and Recovery Blog Tour!

How to introduce “Truth In Romance Day” to your mate

Created with Microsoft Fresh Paint

Everyone is entitled to truth in romance, but some folks simply don’t comply. They think their wants are more relevant than yours, and don’t grasp how much you care about protecting your personal autonomy.

Truth in Romance Day is designed to give you the support you need in order to satisfy your concerns and protect yourself. Continue reading How to introduce “Truth In Romance Day” to your mate